Often a woman goes into a relationship, thinking that there is a prince charming in this world who can complete her. That famous phrase from “Jerry Maguire”: “you complete me” is misleading, to say the least. You are God’s complete creation, you are special and unique. Another person can enhance you, but not “complete” you.
To grow in a relationship you first need to know who you are. Learn to like and respect yourself. Then you will be able to receive and give love equally, in strength, confidence and maturity.
Many people think that contribution in a relationship should be a 50/50 deal. There is a slight problem, though: everybody’s idea of 50% is different. In math it makes sense and 50%+50%=100%, yet in real life it does not always add up this way. We can give 100% of love to the ones we trust. There is a freedom in giving in love, without expecting to be met in a middle. As we are reminded in the most beautiful Bible passage about love:
“If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
… Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.”
1 Corinthians 13:1-7, 13, NLT