Male And Female- Go Figure…
“So God created humans in his own image, in the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.” Genesis 1:27
I get it- we are different. But could our Lord Almighty not go to such extremes?! Us, girls, like to talk, they- usually- not that much. Well, no one knows how to listen these days- males or females- with the exception of your shrink- so there is another problem right there. We need love, romance, flowers, being swept off our feet- constantly- and they demand respect. Oh, my. And we supposed to be in pairs! Why?!
So a woman goes into a relationship thinking that there is a prince charming in this world who can complete her. Yeah, right! That famous phrase from “Jerry Maguire”: “you complete me” is misleading, to say the least. You are God’s complete creation, and don’t you ever forget it! In His ultimate wisdom- only He knows why- he intended for many of us to find a pair. At the same time Lord created you very special and unique, and He did so according to His plan. Another person can enhance you, but not “complete” you.
To make matter even worse nowadays people are waiting to start families. When two people meet after they became accomplished adults and are used to make their own decisions for quite sometime, there will be additional challenges in a relationship– trust me on this.
Lord created us in His image, so there is similarity, but He did not cancel gender, cultural and socio-economic differences.
After all, “male and female he created them” according to His divine design.
We are “wired” differently and that is a fact. It takes grace, forgiveness, lots and
lots of prayer and a salad bowl full of Fruit of the Spirit with extra helpings for two to become one. Yes, we do need His Amazing Grace all the time.
We all know men have no weaknesses, but if they hypothetically did they will allow only a few people to witness such “flaw of manly character”, a wife usually being #1 on a list of confidants. In such case a husband needs wife’s confidentiality. It is not advisable to share his secrets and weaknesses with others- it will turn against you if he finds out. Trust is a must. He also needs your tenderness, understanding, devotion, love, care, strength, advice, help as well as a listening ear- after all, he is a biggest child of them all- just never tell him that! It may take quite some time to learn just to listen, giving your undivided attention and not just to daydream when he is talking about sports or carburetors. Switching a conversation to stories about you is another no-no. That what you have girlfriends for- to vent about life, to complain, to support each other. Men cannot just sit there, listen to what is going on in your life and nod- guys are natural problem solvers. When we are just venting about something, what men hear is that we are having a problem and they need to fix it.
Bottom line is- men and women are different by design. To grow in a relationship be yourself, getting to know who you are and who Lord created you to be. Learn to like and respect yourself and you will be able to do the same to others on a highest level. Getting a tiara and wearing it around the house from time to time may assist you to be more tuned-in to your inner queen. “Love your neighbor as yourself” implies you love yourself first. Not the self-centered and totally egotistical kind of love, but respect and confidence that you are wonderfully made in the image of your Creator.
Some women believe that a man in their life is supposed to meet all their needs. Whom are we kidding? Are we expecting a mere man to provide for us? Aren’t we attempting to take God out of the picture? With such expectations we are telling our Heavenly Father that He and what He is giving us is not enough, forgetting that Lord is the only one who knows all our needs can meet them.
is not right to have anything to stand between you and God, even the most beautiful relationship in the world. Sometimes we get too attached to a person, and when Lord chooses to take that person away- either just out of our lives or to heaven- we are overwhelmed with grief, forgetting that there is a reason for us to be here and to press on. Lord never wastes a sorrow or a tear. He chose the parents for you- for better or worse, places you lived at and people who came into your life-all for a season. He allowed everything to happen for a reason, to put you in circumstances where you can fulfill His purpose for your life. No one is designed to give to others what you have to give. You are God’s masterpiece, “wonderfully made” by Him. There is a unique purpose for your life, even if you can’t see it yet, blinded by today’s sorrow of loss. Life is a box of chocolates, even when the box is stained, torn and overall unappealing, there are yummies inside- just wait and see!
And here is a final thought: many people think that contribution in a relationship should be a 50/50 deal. There is a slight problem, though: everybody’s idea of
50% is different. In math it makes sense and 50%+50%=100%, but in real life it
does not always adds up this way. Just give of yourself in love, without always
expecting to be met in a middle. As we are reminded in the most beautiful Bible passage about love:
“If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. 2 If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. 3 If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.
4 Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud 5 or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. 6 It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. 7 Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.
…13 Three things will last forever—faith, hope, and love—and the greatest of these is love.”
1 Corinthians 13