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It is all about love! We should remember it not only on February 14, but every day.
We were created for love, but somehow we still get lonely, resentful, frustrated, and pessimistic. What is wrong with our perception? How can we refocus on what our ultimate calling is? How can we remind ourselves that loving others as ourselves is the first and foremost task for every single person?
The answer is in capturing our negative and distractive thoughts and in renewing our minds daily. Even though it takes a lot of concentration and quite a bit of work, it can be achieved.
Practice daily purification of the mind, begin each day with focusing on love. Ask yourself how can you experience love today. Whatever you focus on you bring into your life.
“Though your beginning was small, your latter days will be very great.” Job 8:7, ESV
Have you ever thought that you were created for greatness? Not the pompous kind, but the one that reflects God’s one-of-a-kind design for you, your Destiny. Greatness and perfectionism are quite different when you look at achieving from the angle of pleasing your Creator, not yourself or others.
What has been prohibiting you from achieving something very special, something you know deep in your heart you were created to do? Are you afraid you’re not good enough, that you don’t measure up? Do you question your strength? Are you concerned what others might think? Are you busy surviving?
Striving for greatness can be tricky. What does it mean to you, to achieve your life’s purpose? What are the dreams you had as a child? Do you think they are silly and there is nothing to them, that the life is tough and the reality has no room for dreaming?
Do you know how to discern God’s purpose for you? Do you have a habit of constant communication with your Creator, The God of the Universe?
By praying and asking God for guidance you will be encouraged on your journey. Pray for Divine appointments along the way. Make a decision to move in the direction of your dreams and desires, take action and keep going forward. You can tap into ultimate source of power, the one that created you for the purpose only you can fulfill.
“One who has unreliable friends soon comes to ruin, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother”. Proverbs 18:24 (NIV)
Embracing imperfection is a center of Japanese art form/technique of kintsugi.
Kintsugi stands for “golden repair”. A few hundred years ago when a valuable bowl or a vessel was broken it was sent to be repaired. An artist mixed resin or lacquer with gold and used it as glue. The result of such restoration? A “new” piece of art with unexpected and intricate veins of gold running through it.
You may feel like a broken vessel, pieces scattered everywhere. You are not whole anymore. You may be hiding this brokenness in shame, afraid to admit this imperfection.
God can restore our imperfections and brokenness just the same. He has the power to reshape our lives and make them beautiful again.
When our lives are repaired our stories become examples of God’s handiwork. You can be masterfully restored to a joyous, full life. Our “cracks” filled with pure gold of wisdom and understanding, beautiful in its imperfection.
Now not only we can be used again, we become true masterpieces.
“Yet you, Lord, are our Father. We are the clay, you are the potter; we are all the work of your hand.” Isaiah 64:8, NIV
Two days after I posted my previous blog entry Spiritual Desert of a Laundry Room I had a breakfast with a couple of girlfriends. As we were having a great time catching up one of the ladies mentioned a beautiful red lamp she recently purchased for her laundry room. Laundry room? Did I hear her correctly? I was not the only one surprised. We were curious why she decided to decorate her laundry room in a special way.
The answer was unexpected as well as eye opening. For this woman her laundry room has become her spiritual retreat. She loves coming there at night not only to wash clothes for her family of five, but also to enjoy some solitude and prayer time. She decorated it with splashes of color and items she likes to make it cozy and inviting.
Listening to her I thought how a change of perspective could completely switch one’s attitude. Decorating a place you spend a lot of time at and leaving negativity at the door can be revolutionary in a sense how you perceive any task you complete in that space and possibly affect your overall satisfaction with life.
I remember praying for my loved ones on numerous occasions as I did household chores: cooking, cleaning, laundry. My least favorite was ironing. I disliked it since childhood. We did not have a dryer when I was growing up, clothes came out wrinkled after being line dried and it was my responsibility to iron piles of clothes week after week. I became an expert at ironing, but I hated it. Later on even with a dryer there were still things that needed to be pressed. I used to set my ironing board in front of a TV and watch spiritual shows because not even sitcoms worked to sweeten a pill of this task… I also learned to pray more for my husband as I was pressing creases out of his dress shirts. Can you imagine my huge sigh of relief when I was able to send stuff to the cleaners where someone was doing laundry for me? Halleluiah!
Most people I know can easily identify their most and least favorite house chores. For me ironing tops the list of least favorite and it took a lot of prayer not to spiral down into resentment and self-pity when I was doing it.
What I do like is washing dishes by hand. There is something soothing about warm soapy water running through my fingers. It brings me to an almost meditative state of mind and it feels like a mini-retreat. I think that is what my friend experiences when she does laundry in a quiet room at night. Nobody interrupts her thoughts there and she can just be. Often this is as much “me” time as she allows herself.
Having downtime to unwind is necessary for everyone and there are many ways to do it. Often we think it is necessary to allot special time and find a place. But it can be as unorthodox as one’s laundry room or a quiet time by a kitchen sink.
It is funny how house chores can become uplifting spiritual experiences regardless if you like them or not. It’s all in a mindset.
“Do all things without grumbling or questioning, that you may be blameless and innocent, children of God without blemish in the midst of a crooked and twisted generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world…” Philippians 2:14-15 ESV
“So I decided there is nothing better than to enjoy food and drink and to find satisfaction in work. Then I realized that these pleasures are from the hand of God.” Ecclesiastes 2:24
Ever since I was a little girl, I’ve loved crafts. Knitting, crocheting, painting, drawing, cross stitching – you name it – I love them all! Over the years I’ve learned it’s okay to have various unfinished projects around the house. I can just pick them up as I feel like without feeling guilty of not having completed it within a deadline. In the past I used to knit or crochet something as a gift. Yet when a project has a deadline, it adds to stress, and that is the very thing I want to avoid. Now a mostly look at crafts as instruments to flow my creativity and don’t put any pressure on myself. I need this freedom now. I also have total freedom to choose what project to work on next.
There’s something very special about complicated cross stitching patterns. I love to work with blank canvas, looking at my pattern, watching the whole picture slowly appear as I work through it, adding colors and shapes. Still sometimes my OCD lifts it’s head… Many people I know get frustrated with the complexity of this activity, yet for me working on complicated patterns brings joy and relaxation. When I work on something beautiful, I don’t stress out or overthink the problems of a day. Somehow it prompts me to dream.
Sometimes in a corner or a thrift store I come across a beautiful cross stitched picture covered in dust. I would never know who made it, what their life was like nor what that person was thinking about as they spent numerous hours completing their craft. I wonder sometimes what would happen to the art projects I completed?
Couple days ago I decided to read the book of Ecclesiastes from the Bible. It was the first book I ever read when I started reading it 20 years ago. The phrase that goes as a refrain for the whole 12 chapters is: enjoy your life and fruit of your labor, and that all our worries, problems, struggles and achievements are basically meaningless. I often wonder what did the author exactly mean by meaningless?
“All is meaningless under the sun…”How meaningless is it? Should we just give up on searching for life’s purpose? Shall we never worry our heads with a legacy we are to leave behind?
As I ask these questions I am reminded that I don’t need to meaninglessly wonder through life because, totally helpless. I have God. What I need to do is to ask for guidance and listen for answers.
As soon as I got up I realized it was to be one of THOSE mornings:
First, a friend, who was supposed to go with me and record a video of the event texted that she had to cancel.
Second, I had a bout of allergies with non-stop sneezing and watery eyes for over an hour. I had not have allergy symptoms in years, why today?
I could not find a sweater I wanted to wear. My closet is organized, yet it was nowhere to be found… I had to pick something else.
A transcript of my speech wouldn’t show up on a computer screen. When I finally got a printer to work there was a paper jam. Next, it promptly ran out of blue and yellow ink. Though I only needed black ink the machine refused to print…
I wanted to have my notes, and it took me about five attempts to finally open the document on an iPad.
I begun to pray and prayed every step of the way, as I often do in such frustrating situations.
Soon my allergy miraculously cleared without medication, it was completely gone by the time I got to church. I quickly found something nice to wear, accessories and all, my car started and I got to the place on time.
As my girlfriend wasn’t available to film my speech another friend kindly agreed to do the job.
The presentation went well. I didn’t need my notes after all!
Afterwards a woman came up with tears in her eyes. She told me that my story reminded her of times when she supported a ministry that was smuggling Bibles to the Soviet Union. We talked for quite some time and were amazed how many things we had in common. It truly felt like a Divine Appointment.
As I am writing this I am lying in bed sick with a food poisoning or a flu. I was ill a week before as well. I am also have been very sad about the news I get from my native Ukraine… Today my emotions can easily spiral down with self-pity and frustration.
Yet again I need to focus on prayer and gratitude. What can I be thankful for, even under these circumstances? Well, here are a few things:
– I am recovering at home, it would have been much worse if I was traveling.
– I have freedom to cancel or postpone all engagements and appointments and focus on getting well.
– I can use this break from usual activities to pray for my family, friends and everything that comes to mind, including governments and political situations.
– I am blessed to have my family and friends.
Is my body feeling much better after this exercise? Nope. But my spirit is soaring a little higher now. And for that too I am grateful.
” Don’t you know that you yourselves are God’s temple and that God’s Spirit lives in you?” 1 Corinthians 3:16
” For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.” Ephesians 2:10
Nowadays whenever I take poor care of my body I think of verses like these. I was created in our God’s image and am a temple of God’s Spirit. It makes me responsible of taking good care of this temple, right? Poor diet, luck of exercise, working or running errands to the point of exhaustion, bad habits that affect my health are completely unacceptable.Part of God’s plan for my life is a perfect health. It is a given. What I do with this gift is another story.
When I keep this idea about my body being a temple in perspective I think twice about eating processed, fattening or sweet foods, especially ones loaded with preservatives and chemicals. I am aware of staying in a chair or on a couch too much.
I am trying my best to eat more natural non-processed food, to work out more. I move for exercise, but I am actually learning to slow down when I am getting stressed or overwhelmed. I am changing my lifestyle habits and can see a difference and overall positive effect. I’ve lost weight and have more energy.
Lord, please help me continue to take good care of this temple of your Spirit, so I can have energy and perfect health you gave me to fulfill my life’s purpose. Amen.
“Listen, my son, and be wise, and keep your heart on the right path.” Proverbs 23:19
When our children grow up it seems that we cannot change them, we can only pray for them. We need to teach them when they are young, by word and by example. There are beautiful scriptures in the Bible about teaching children wisdom: Proverbs 22:6, 2:1-6, 3:1-12, 4:1-17, 6:20-23, Ephesians 6:1-4.When they get older sometimes the interaction between parents and children change. Quite often our strong-spirited children take our well-intended advice as not having enough confidence in them and not trusting their judgment. It is very challenging to watch your child fall and learn from his mistakes. I think this is how our Heavenly Father is watching over us, allowing us to grow, mostly through pain.
We can pray for divine appointments in our children’s lives and good godly influence from their friends and people they meet. Most likely it is not God’s plan to use only you to influence your child and shape his character, can you agree with that? Even though we are surrounded by negativity of the world God will provide in due time and he does answer prayers.
Many of you have wonderful, loving and caring children, you can be proud of them. But in reality it is only by the grace of God that they are who they are. It is only God who gives us our talents, abilities, and character, to become who he wants us to be. Remember, even the hair on your head is numbered. It is not right to be prideful and say it is only because of your dedication and guidance your children turned out the way they are. The Lord blessed you so you can raise them right and you can do this job for him. We should not boast about our great parenting abilities because it is God who gives us wisdom as well as children who listen and respond well. Do not look down on those whose children are not as well-behaved or successful as yours. Does it mean that God loves other people less than you if their children bring grief and shame to their parents? Do you think those parents did a lousy job raising them? How do you know? Actually, it does not matter what you know. We have no right to judge others; we can only encourage them and pray. No gossip-prayers, please.
There are numerous stories about pastor’s kids. Some keep walking with Christ and are great examples of lives lived for God. Others may rebel against their upbringing at some point and decide to test their boundaries. They will try to see what the world has to offer and drift away from God. You know pretty well that good Christian kids, regardless pastor’s kids or not, can do bad things. For some kids, especially teenagers, having an “overly religious parents” may be not “cool”. Maybe they think that their parents are out of touch with the “real world” and are clueless. Would you struggle with that if it were going on in your family? You are praying for your child, and you are nice and sweet and yet your kid is a rebellious teenager who thinks that it is embarrassing if you talk about God all the time. It’s ok, just keep on praying. Never cease to pray for a child and be a good example. Sometimes you may not want to talk too much, and bore your kid to death. Don’t worry; your child will catch on later. What you need to do is listen, and if you show your love to God through your actions rather than words, your child might very well listen more. And if you ask them questions without judging their choices outright perhaps you might open a door to a deeper level of communication. At times you may wonder what happened to this sweet little child of yours. They are still there, but they are changing, going through their own growing pains and at times causing pain to you. Let it be, God is always in control, even when it does not feel like it.
We need to learn to forgive ourselves for mistakes we made in raising children. Children do not come with an instructional booklet at birth- not a single one. And if you have a few children you know how different they are, even the twins! You may raise them the same way, but God gave them different personalities.
Parents often wonder if they did or are doing everything right. Many feel guilty for what they did not do, classes they did not signed their children for, fieldtrips they did not chaperone, and conversations they did not have with their children. Even the “super-moms” have guilt relapses! You did your job to the best you could with resources, abilities and level of maturity and wisdom you had at that time. We do not know what is the reason for all the hurt, pain or mistakes. The Lord is the one who can see the whole picture. God knew what He was doing giving you this child. Have no regrets.
Trust God and rely on Him completely. Hannah’s story from the Book of Samuel comes to mind. The story is about a barren woman who desperately wanted to have a child. Year after year she prayed and even vowed her child to be a servant of God if she ever become pregnant. The Lord finally heard her prayer and she gave birth to a son. She only had him to herself for a short while and later took him to the temple to serve God. Can you imagine how difficult that was- to give up your child, even if you know he will serve God? You can read this story in 1 Samuel 1:1-28.
Another story about intrusting your child to God is that of Moses. His mother Jochebed put an infant in a basket and placed it in the reeds by the bank of the Nile. She asked her daughter to watch and see what would happen. Most of you are familiar with this story and know that it was a move dictated by desperation- all Hebrew boys were to be killed. I can imagine there were plenty crocodiles in the reeds and not too many princesses walking around saving babies, so placing Moses there was a total trust in God.
We all are different and everyone has a unique story. But we all have to remember that kids will be alright- they are in caring and loving hands of their Creator.
Heavenly Father, please keep our children save. You give them desires of their heart, please help them to fulfill their lives purpose. Please give them wisdom and guide them along the way. Fill their heart with joy and bodies with health. We pray in Your Son’s Precious Name. Amen.
“My thoughts are nothing like your thoughts,” says the Lord.
“And my ways are far beyond anything you could imagine.
For just as the heavens are higher than the earth,
so my ways are higher than your ways
and my thoughts higher than your thoughts.” Isaiah 55:8-9
Many of us have a tendency to over think, especially women. We go back to the same problem again, and again, and again. We try to predict every possible scenario to find the solution. If a disaster strikes we may ask the same question “Why?” a hundreds times.
How much easier our lives would be if we relay on our Lord in everything and from the very beginning. We cannot comprehend the whole picture anyway. He can allow us to catch a glimpse on very rare occasions, but we can not predict the sequence of events in our lives. Why worry? Give it to the Lord and ask Him to help you live happily ever after. Or at least to stop over thinking.