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How To Declutter You Life And Declutter Your Mind

I am no stranger to “spring cleaning” regardless of time of the year. End of August and beginning of September are the best times for “back to school” organizing. For many moms whose children are still living at home it is a welcome move from unorganized chaos of the summer to a schedule-based school year. For those empty nesters whose children just left home it is time to stop crying and begin enjoying the freedom- and space. Trust me.
Regardless of what your situation is decluttering may be just the thing you need to get a fresh start. By doing so you undoubtedly will gain a new perspective on your surroundings and future actions. It is hard to approach new beginnings when weighted down by baggage and clatter, be it physical or emotional.
When you are facing changes in life, are scared and vulnerable sorting things out may need to start in your closet.
Do you hold on to emotional baggage? How about stuff in your closet? Do you keep a few thing with tags still attached because you just can’t let go of them? Are you also afraid to let go of friendships that don’t make you feel good any more? Did you accept hand-me-downs you didn’t really like (and never wore!) because they were free and you could not refuse the temptation? How about other temptations in your life, do you give in easily? Can you say no to requests that will sure put you over the top? Are you afraid to express your true feelings to your family members because you don’t want to hurt them? Do you still have that skirt you got on clearance three years ago? Even though it was a little too tight it was cute so you got it hoping to lose weight soon. Does it fit you now or have you gained a few? Do you still hope to lose weight? That’s good, but a thing you don’t realize is that a skirt is a silent reproach of your conscience: you can’t do it, looser!
Can you recall everything you own? How about in just one category? Do you remember every pair of jeans you own? Every blouse and dress? Can you access them easily? If the answer to every question is yes than congratulations, you are a minimalist and you may stop reading now. If, on the other hand, just reading about clatter in your closet makes you anxious it is high time for you to do something about it.
This month I will walk you through a few simple steps. Please don’t get carried away and try to clean and organize everything at once- you may burn out and quit altogether. That is not what you want, right? Let’s start with clothes. Decide what you will do with the things you will let go of. Give away? Donate? Sell? There may be people who appreciate vintage and want what you no longer need. You, on the other hand, will learn what you truly need.
You may be blessed to afford beautiful expensive designer clothes. Even if you spent a lot of money on such things do you still love them? If not, one by one separate them from the things that still bring you joy. You may choose to donate them. In this case you may want to locate designer boutiques that may give you better tax credit for you items than regular donation places. Another option is selling them. But only consider selling if you definitely WILL do it! Don’t create a pile of things you will eventually sell if it will never happen, it only creates more baggage and clatter that will weigh you down emotionally. image
After you made a decision about what you are going to do with discarded things let’s have some fun! First I suggest locating and bringI got in a same place every skirt or pair of pants you own. If you have dig for it, that’s ok, just try not to get distracted and start organizing your photos or other non-clothes items, that’s a no-no at this step. This is a week to deal with clothes only. After you have all your pants and skirts in a same spot look at each item by pulling it out, not just looking at it on a hanger, crammed between other things. Take it in you hands and ask yourself if this thing still excites you. What are the reasons you may want to keep it? If you think “It may fit me eventually if loose weight”, ” I can wear it to work in the garden”, ” You can barely see the stain, I’ll wear it around the house”, ” It’s sort of cute”or “I wore it in 1982” that is not it. Does it make you happy? Do you want to wear it tomorrow? This week? To a next party? You have to love it to keep it, otherwise it should go into a “letting go of” pile. May be someone would love it more than you do. Count your blessings that you were able to afford clothes that gave you please to wear them. Then free yourself from them with gratitude. After you are done with all skirts and pants by using this approach you will move to a next category: sweaters, dresses, scrubs, dress shirts. At the end you will most likely cut your belongings in half. Bag the items you don’t want to keep. Nearly organize the things you chose to keep so they are easily reachable. As for the things you bagged- get them out of your living space within a week. The sooner the better.
Good luck and happy cleaning!
Your coach Lena.

Greatness

image“Though your beginning was small, your latter days will be very great.”

Job 8:7 (ESV)

Have you ever thought that you were created for greatness? Not the pompous kind, but the one that reflects God’s one-of-a-kind design for you, your Destiny. Greatness and perfectionism are quite different when you look at achieving from the angle of pleasing your Creator, not yourself or others.

If  what stops you from achieving something for the glory of God? Are you afraid that you’re not enough? Are you concerned what others  might think? Do you question what that greatness might me comparing to seemingly small everyday tasks you need to complete?

Striving for greatness can be tricky. What does it mean to you- to be great? Focusing on achieving to bring glory to God is the way to go- even in things that seems small and mandane at first glance. Pray, ask God to give you a vision, decide to move in that direction and go forward. He got you, baby!

Weight-loss challenges

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I belong to a group of people who likes variety. Sticking to just one weight-loss strategy, even a well-proven one, would not work for for me long- time. I like variety otherwise I get extremely bored. Some people prepare and portion their meals for a week in advance. I’m sure it’s a very good strategy and will produce great results. I may try to do that for one week but after a while I will need to switch to something else.
My friend Stephanie Boyer went on her annual master cleanse a few days ago. The way I remember it is basically drinking lemon water for a number of days in order to detoxify. I did cleanses before but this time I really wanted to take it easy on myself in a beginning…
Diet-wise one of my favorite ways to eat right is having home-made healthy soups. I don’t use any cream or butter/oil, but I do use broth for most of them. I don’t follow recipes most of the time as I like to be creative with my cooking. When my concoction is not particularly to my taste- c’mon, it’s often only boiled veggies!- I blend it and than soup goes down easier. Today I made beef bone broth, than chopped celery, carrots, onions, mushrooms, broccoli and brussels sprouts. I added some spices that were on hand: thyme, ginger powder, basil, salt, pepper and a mix of dry seasoning. I used my handy-dandy immersion blender to whip it up in a purée. If you want to try it but don’t like the texture of a blended soup just leave your vegetables intact.
For next few days I think I will stick with just soups and maybe raw veggies blends.
I haven’t stepped on my scales for months – big mistake. When I finally did this morning and saw a number it scared me. I gained about ten pounds in two months! I’m going to lose weight not only for vanity but for health reasons as well.
I know how to develop a strategy and produce desired results. I’m going to apply it to this particular problem. I know my girlfriends will keep me accountable, as well as my life coach, Kathleen Brooks. Ladies, I need you! Yesterday I went to a party and cheated… It was very difficult to pass on an amazing cake (and usually I am quite picky with my desserts) and blintzes with caviar- c’mon I’m only human! It always have been easier to eat right when I ate my meals at home. Starting a new eating plan is always a challenge for me. I often slip into old eating habits easier in the beginning, before I develop new eating habits.
Anyone wants to join me? Share your strategies for this challenge?
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Challenges of change

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Just a week ago I received a message that an update was available for my cellphone. I went ahead, pressed a few buttons and shortly after discovered that now it looked quite different than what I was used to. I was somewhat disappointed at first. I liked the way the screen looked like before the update, I even thought that if I can go back I would, I did not think now it was an option.
The following morning I told my son, who was home from college, that all apps on my screen looked less “sophisticated” and more like video game images. My son, quite surprised that I updated my phone ahead of him ( go Mom!) inspected my screen and announced his verdict :”Cool!” That was youth talking. It reminded me how I embraced change when I was younger. I really did welcome it. Now I realized how much I changed. A couple years back I learned (oh horror!) that my Pastor and my primary physician where moving out of state just within a month of each other and that my hairdresser was retiring in a few weeks. I was so upset- how could they do it to me! But, of course, the did not do it to me, it was I who was reluctant to change.
When I just moved to the US I had to learn and discover so many things! I can say for sure those first 8 months were the most challenging in my life.
I can relate to many people who face various challenges after relocating. It does not matter if it is a move across the globe, across the country or across the state. All of them have their similar challenges, namely: leaving behind family and friends, familiar places and services. You will have to start all over again: finding doctors, dentists, hairdressers and simply you way around town. You will feel like a new kid on a block and it may remind you much if changing schools when you were a kid and all the insecurities it may bring. We all want to be loved and to belong. Remember all the crazy things some of us did in High School trying to fit in with the hip crowd? Entering a new well-established group, a new church for example, may feel like a Middle High all over again, but it need not be. Lord alone is your strenght and guidance and He will lead you in a right direction bringing right people into your life through what I call “Divine appointments”.

Thank God for technology! Now we have e-mail and Skype available on a cellphone! We can easily be in touch with those we leave behind. Can we please count our blessings without complaining? Some of us remember when a computer or a cell phone was such a novelty and it was very scary to use at first? How about switching from PC to Apple for some if us? It was scary at first and there is so much yet to learn, but I try to manage one little step at a time. We can learn to rely on God in all we do and all challenging situations we may face. He wants and welcomes our complete surrender to His will. Only then we can have our joy and our song restored.

“And be not conformed to this world, but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that ye may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” Romans 12:2

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